Sooo... I'm wondering if I'm supposed to be trying to set to DVD-ROM, is this for DVD+R, am I wasting my time trying to bitset this burner, or wtf?
I tried changing the booktype on the next burn to DVD-ROM, and it said that it was successful, did one more burn, and the same results.
With older stand alone DVD players DVD-R is the most compatible and the reasons for this are purely historical. DVD-R got there first and is more likely to be supported in older machines than the newer DVD+R.
The majority of recent players support both types and when bitsetting is used the +/- debate is now rendered somewhat academic.
Bitsetting is used to fool the DVD player into thinking that the DVD+R is in fact the older DVD-ROM format. For certain players this can improve compatibility and should be in my view the default way to burn +Rs even if you personally have no difficulties yourself.
It's best to make your DVDs as compatible as possible as you may have unforseen problems when you change your player at a later date.
Bitsetting is not necessary and indeed unsupported on the DVD-R format. In theory it's not possible although it can be accomplished in certain circumstances with the aid of some devious tricks but does not improve compatibility.
The Liteon 1653S will support bitsetting via patched firmware if you're interested check out the Omnipatcher thread at CD Freaks.
http://club.cdfreaks.com/showthread.php?t=97590
Don't worry it's not as daunting as it first seems.
I see you've already crossflashed your drive so you already have all the skills you need. Run the firmware of your choice through Omnipatcher, select the bitsetting options you require, then flash as before.
I hope this helps.
Nemesis